Reprogramming Generations - Using your roots to address anxiety and depression

For example, if we took care of a parent from a young age, we might grow up feeling responsible for others and find it hard to focus on our own happiness. Or, if someone in our family long ago faced something unfair—like losing everything or having to leave their home—we might unknowingly try to "fix" that by making big sacrifices in our own lives. 

 

Science has shown us that we don't only inherit physical features from our parents, we also inherit certain behaviours, beliefs and patterns through generations of family lineage. This inheritance is called 'epigenetics'. Unlike most inherited conditions, epigenetics is not caused by mutations in the genetic code, they are not permenant, and they can be shifted and worked on. 

 

Let's dig a little deeper.... 

 

As living beings, our instincts of survival are paramount and in perceived threatening situations, our learned responses will kick in. This plays out in many ways, and can often be linked to generational inheritance...and surprisingly....it's not just genetic DNA code...! 

 

Understanding why we behave or feel the way we do opens a door for you to be able to make changes. It's the 'lightbulb' moment! 

Here is how you can open that door. 

 

Family constellations are a gentle way of exploring the unseen patterns we carry from our families. 

 

Sometimes, without realising it, we hold on to feelings, struggles, or repeated situations that actually started with someone else in our family — even generations ago. It’s like we inherit more than just eye color or hair — we can also inherit unresolved emotions or hidden stories. 

 

In a constellation session with Crystal Clear Coaching, we set up a kind of living map of your family. People (called representatives) stand in for family members, even without knowing anything about them. Strangely — and beautifully — they often start to feel the emotions, relationships, or patterns that belong to your family’s story. 

 

As these patterns come to light, they can begin to shift. Often, just seeing and acknowledging them is enough to bring a sense of relief, clarity, and healing — helping you feel freer to live your own life, without carrying what doesn’t belong to you. 

 

Epigenetics a word that appears highly scientific, but it is something that affects every living being to varying degrees and can be super helpful for us as individuals to understand what may be triggering our responses through life.  

 

Epigenetics is the study of the ability to inherit changes in gene expression without alterations to the DNA sequence. 

 

 

I find a working example helps to understand how epigenetics passes through generations. Stick with me on this one.... 

Imagine a family....This is for illustrative purposes only 

Now, let's examine what happens through the generations of this example: 

 

1. Your great great grandmother was so insecure because her genes had developed a sensitivity to being insecure and that the only way to get what she needed in life was to people please through the risk of death her mother had experienced. 

 

2. Your great grandmother was controlling and manipulative because her genes were epigenetically affected by the need to manipulate situations to survive the risk of death that her grandmother had experienced at the hands of rapists and during war. 

 

3. Your grandmother was unable to express herself as she was still carrying some shame epigentically that her grandmother felt from abandoning her children. 

 

4. Your mother is narcissitic because she has inherited a sensitivity to the trauma that her mother experienced and is determined that she needs to be in control herself and so has become overbearing and controlling. 

 

The effects from your great great great grandmother are still being passed to you.  

 

The concept of morphogenetic field is a key notion that underpins the practice of family constellations. Developed by English biologist Rupert Sheldrake. 

 

Sheldrake studies the concept of invisible fields containing information about the shape and behaviour of systems. The field is responsible for the development of patterns, organisation and regulation of living beings. They would act as a memory which replicates across time. 

 

So, when an individual learns a new behaviour the information is recorded in the field and becomes a part of the members in that field, unconsciously influencing family members, even if they do not have direct knowledge of these pieces of information. During a family constellation, it is considered that this field is activated and made visible. 

 

By looking back at a family constellation, it brings an awareness and understanding of where behaviours and emotions have come from. It is from this that YOU CAN HEAL, you can change the patterns. 

 

The first step is to learn. 

Investigating your family constellation, learn from your ancestors. 

 

It may not even be big life events, perhaps a passing comment from a grandparent has influenced what you believe is 'expected' of you and that's causing you anxiety to live up to expectations or standards? 

Perhaps what your family perceive to be 'success' is holding you a prisoner to that image and causing stress and anxiety if you don't feel you are confirming to that? 

 

Delving into the past can be emotional, it can be uplifing, and sometimes it can be painful. However, the benefits can be enormous! 

You don't have to do it alone. 

 

Our Healing the Motherline programmes (including Reclaiming Authentic You) all guide you through the process, and you are not alone! 

Not only do we guide you through the family constellation, our programmes also guide and support you through healing, understanding triggers, reframing and making the changes to free yourself from generational influence. You can heal behaviours such as chronic people pleasing, perfectionism, financial fears, difficulties with boundaries. Through addressing these behaviours you can become free to live your life as you want and be your authenitc self, letting go of unecessary expectations and demands on your self. Life will start to flow, feel easier, depression and anxiety lifts and and new, happier you will emerge.  

Check out the programmes available and contact me for a chat. 

 

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