Posted on 3rd March 2021
Worry, why do we have so much?
Worry is probably something that we all experience at some point in our lives. Circumstances might lead to a worrying time or we simply find ourselves worrying alot about things. We can worry about
Our mental health
The list can just go on and on.
One person said to me once that worry can be like rocking back and forth in a rocking chair. It does not get you anywhere and uses alot of energy.
But still we worry.
Perhaps you feel if you do not worry you will be seen as uncaring, or not taking responsibility for a situation? The fact is you can be caring and take responsibility for situations without worrying. All you need to do is take the next action you need to take. In fact if you are not worrying you may even think clearer about the next step forward.
This is all well and good but worrying is so primal and almost in our DNA that it is virtually impossible to stop sometimes.
If this is you, here are a few tips you can try.
Grounding techniques, mindfulness meditation so just focusing on something else. Going for a walk, looking at a picture, doing some arts and crafts or something like cooking that distracts you from the worry
Allocate some ‘worry time’. So this can be anytime in the day and will last for a specific amount of time, e.g half an hour. If you start to worry about anything, allocate that worry to the time of day you are going to worry. Make sure you do use that time to worry though.
Write down the problem and solutions. Give each solution a scoring and see which sits with you best. Meditate and get in touch with how you feel internally about each situation, your intuition is your guide.
Let go of what you can not change. The serenity prayer says. ‘God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference’ Trying to control things that we can not control only makes us worry more. Let go of those things.
If you would like to sign up for my Worrier to Warrior video challenge it is £35 and can be accessed here. These 4 videos will give you tools to worry less, feel calmer and change your thinking that leads to worry.
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